Who are you to judge?

I was told in a workshop;

Life is a long struggle.
Do not judge people because you yourself might also struggling with your own life-long struggle.
But, it is our duty to help each other with our struggles.

Well, yes.
Sometimes, people tend to be judgmental towards what is seen in the eyes.
Sometimes, people are more concern about finding others' flaws neglecting the good deeds of others.
Sometimes, people are just complaining without being grateful for what they have.
Sometimes, people are just being people, joking about other people's weaknesses without any sense of respect, disregard the sensitivity of other people's feelings and emotion.

Well, do you think that these people are the good people who has the privilege to judge?
Are they not like those who are always tested with challenges as the Almighty God's creations?

...many times in life, we do the wrong things, we are not angle.
But, feel guilty about it, acknowledge yourself immediately.
Immediately following up with something good..

...Allah promises to those who are hardworking, determined towards the right things...

(quoted from the workshop I attended)


So, be good and help others to be good.
You could make a difference.

So, instead of condemning, help others to find the right path, ok?

Goodbye

By the time I'm typing this, it is only few hours left to 2011.. Little did we realize that time has taken its toll over time.. Glimpsing back, there had been many incidents so as accidents that perhaps you could not even recall because there's just too many things happened to you through out the year..Not to forget those things that you may refuse to remember which had left yourself to bear a huge scar deep inside in a way..

Whether this year had been a lucky or a fall out year to you, what crucial most is, it should be a stepping stone for you to move steps ahead towards a better you..


"Let bygone be bygone"
Sometimes, life is so beautiful but sometimes, life turned out to be the opposite of what we've expected it to be. Whatever happened, life goes on. Leave the past and move forward. Have faith that things happened for reasons. Sometimes, when things turned out to be bad, it's actually not that bad at all. Look at the bright side and learn from what you've gone through. Remember, bits and pieces that you've experienced had actually made you a unique person.

"Forgive"
Many times in life, we'd do the wrong things. Of course, nobody's perfect. But, taking yourself towards the right things is good enough. Thus, before you could move any further, start forgiving. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Open up your heart, and the world will open up for you.

"Don't judge, help instead"
Life is a long struggle. Each and every one of us has our own life-struggle. Thus, do not judge people because you yourself might also struggling with your own life-long struggle. You wouldn't know what they have been struggling even if you've walked one mile in their shoes, and so are they. But, it is our duty to help each other with our struggle.

"Be responsible"
Responsibility is something that you cannot run away from. You are responsible as a daughter, as a brother or sister, as a friend, as a husband or wife. You're also responsible in your studies, in your work. But what important most is, you're responsible as His creation and there's no way for you to 'disconnect' yourself from Him.

"Don't hate, accept others"
Again, nobody's perfect. But what important most is how to look beyond the imperfections. Each of us has our own strengths and flaws. Thus, do not hate but accept people as they are. Sometimes, there are times when you could not help it, so isolate yourself. Take your time to reconcile.

"Be positive and smile"
Life is like a cycle. Sometimes you're on top, sometimes, you'd thrown to the bottom of the cycle. Be positive that you could work things out in future. Have faith that you could make it all better. Smile more often, and put all the stresses away.

The choice is yours.



Goodbye 2010..

A chapter is closed, another is beginning...

The art of Forgiving

"To forgive and forget, rules to a happy life"

Often we heard such line intentionally to comfort somebody's grudge. Even sometimes it's been said to us whenever we were in anger or hatred due to hypocrisy, backstabbing, betrayal or any controversial affairs that irk us. But the point is, is it true that you can live happily by forgiving and forgetting someone's flaws to you?

Well, let's get the picture here.

Your boyfriend/ girlfriend cheated you. Your circle of friends think what he/she had done to you was so unforgivable. Thus, you feel like you cannot even forgive him/her. So every morning you wake up, you remember what he/she had done to you and you curse him/her. Before you go to bed, when you feel sad and alone, you remember what he/she had done to you and you curse him/her. What about in between that? When you go out and you saw a couple crossing the road, you remember again and you curse him/her. You go to the petrol pump and you saw a couple in a car in front of you. The guy walks to the counter while the girl touching-up in the car. Then, you remember what had happened and you curse him/her again. Wow, in ten to eleven days, he/she would totally got cursed by you!

But then, do you feel better?
Even if you think that you'd feel better, the feeling won't last long because you'll feel the burden soon after. Yes, the burden of revenge and grudge that you're carrying with you. And it'll get heavier day after day.

Why can't you just let it go?
Let it go. Let bygone be bygone. When it comes to the point of letting go, yes, it's never get easy. But, that's just the best thing to do.

"To err is human", who are we to judge?

Try to open up your heart...and...forgive.. No matter what happened, life goes on. Don't let the past holds you back. You'll feel less burden when you forgive people. Yes, even for bits and pieces deed, let's just forgive. Embrace yourself with love. Love yourself and love the others. You'll feel much happier then. =D