This time, I'll let my tears running..

Dear S,

It hurts to hurt you,
I wish I could undone things,
I wish I wouldn't have to choose,
I wish that we could have stayed,
I wish things are good just like the old days.

But, time flies,
Things changed,
You've changed,
Either do I..

I am sorry S..

Truthfully,
Your bestie

Relationships are...???

"Relationships are messy, people's feelings tend to get hurt... who needs that?"

Suri told Mia as she quoted from the movie that they both watched, '500 Days of Summer'.

"Mia, we don't need 'relationships'. They are all messy. We just need someone to get married. Like... a future husband..."

Well, Suri got a point there. She's a one tough big girl. Perhaps what she had gone through has made her to think in such way. Unlike Suri, Mia is a 'cry-baby'. When things go wrong, she'll become weak and fragile. Thus, she needs to be with someone who can take a good care of her.

The point here is, are relationships messy?

1. Yes if they give you so much troubles until you couldn't eat, couldn't do your work or affect your life, so they are messy.

2. No if they give you strength, encouragement and inspiration for you to go on in your life.


Whatever it is, you might have your own opinion about relationship, rite?

Choice is yours!

Hurt

"You hurt me!"

How do you feel when someone hurt you? Yes hurt.
Whether physically or emotionally, how does it feel?
Will you cry for it? Will you laugh at it? Will you smile for it? Or you just don't feel anything?

Well, the first one, perhaps you would cry for it. Yeah, your first experience and of course it would leave a huge scar on you. So, you would cry, a lot I guess. Even if it already stopped bleeding, the pain seems still to be there. And sometimes, you would feel even worse. But soon, the cut will heal in time, and there you go, a scar on you!

Being the adventurous you of course you would just love to treasure, a lot. You started to questions 'why oh why' and try to overcome the 'so called' reason you got hurt.

But what if it already happened for so many times? Over and over again?

I guess nobody wants or like it to be hurt, but when things just go wrong, you can't help it.

The art of Forgiving

"To forgive and forget, rules to a happy life"

Often we heard such line intentionally to comfort somebody's grudge. Even sometimes it's been said to us whenever we were in anger or hatred due to hypocrisy, backstabbing, betrayal or any controversial affairs that irk us. But the point is, is it true that you can live happily by forgiving and forgetting someone's flaws to you?

Well, let's get the picture here.

Your boyfriend/ girlfriend cheated you. Your circle of friends think what he/she had done to you was so unforgivable. Thus, you feel like you cannot even forgive him/her. So every morning you wake up, you remember what he/she had done to you and you curse him/her. Before you go to bed, when you feel sad and alone, you remember what he/she had done to you and you curse him/her. What about in between that? When you go out and you saw a couple crossing the road, you remember again and you curse him/her. You go to the petrol pump and you saw a couple in a car in front of you. The guy walks to the counter while the girl touching-up in the car. Then, you remember what had happened and you curse him/her again. Wow, in ten to eleven days, he/she would totally got cursed by you!

But then, do you feel better?
Even if you think that you'd feel better, the feeling won't last long because you'll feel the burden soon after. Yes, the burden of revenge and grudge that you're carrying with you. And it'll get heavier day after day.

Why can't you just let it go?
Let it go. Let bygone be bygone. When it comes to the point of letting go, yes, it's never get easy. But, that's just the best thing to do.

"To err is human", who are we to judge?

Try to open up your heart...and...forgive.. No matter what happened, life goes on. Don't let the past holds you back. You'll feel less burden when you forgive people. Yes, even for bits and pieces deed, let's just forgive. Embrace yourself with love. Love yourself and love the others. You'll feel much happier then. =D

What are you looking for?

Situation 1:
A: I just broke up.
B: Ohw, I'm sorry. Don't worry, you'll find someone better.
A: I don't know why it all didn't work.
B: What kind of girl/ guy are you looking for?

Yes, what are you looking for?
Are you looking for someone who is good looking?
Are you looking for someone who has lots of money?
Are you looking for someone who drives nice car?
Are you looking for someone who can make you laugh?

Well, no matter what your answer is, there's no right or wrong answer. Suits yourself. But, if you ask me, I would go for the latter.

"Don't go for looks, they can deceive. Don't go for wealth, even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seems bright"

In regards the situation above, A just broke up though he tried his best to save the relationship. Perhaps this isn't the first time of his relationship failure because B is calm when responding to A. And the next best thing is, B come out with a question "What kind of girl/ guy are you looking for?"

Yes, in order for you to get something, you must know what you want first. But in order for you to get the right girl/ guy, you must know what you need first. Yes, need because there's difference between 'want' and 'need'.

When a relationship ends, look at it positively. Perhaps he/ she is not the right one for you. Perhaps you need someone who can give you more. Perhaps you need someone who can treat you better.Perhaps you need someone who suits you best.

Or perhaps, the one for you is right there in front of you but you just weren't looking... you didn't notice and you didn't realize it. But that someone is there whenever you need someone to talk to, someone to believe you, someone to comfort you...So, look back.

But sometimes, it depends on luck. Forget about the looks, forget about the money...or forget about what had happened.. So here, you cannot look at anywhere but feel it with your heart.. Yes, that little voice of yours..

And there are also time when you are just not sure of what you want and what you need... but don't worry, because HE will answer your prayer...if only...only you would have just asked...

Life at the roundabout

"I'm confused"
"Yes you always are"
"I'm sad. I keep on meeting the wrong person"
"That's because you keep on driving at the same roundabout"


Yes, roundabout. What does a roundabout mean to you? Well, if you're driving, and you see a roundabout, what would you do? 9 o'clock? 12 o'clock? 3 o'clock? Or you just go around the roundabout?

Well, if you know where you're heading, you'll definitely know which way you are going to take, whether to take the 9 o'clock, 12 o'clock or the 3 o'clock. But, if you don't know where you are going, that makes you to drive at the same roundabout!

Let say, you know where you want to go, but you are not sure which way to take. Will you be able to reach your desired destination? Hm, maybe you can follow the signboards, but what if there are no signboards? Will you be able to find your way? Well, maybe you can just try out any of the way, 9 o'clock, 12 o'clock or the 3 o'clock. Soon, you'll figure out the right way to your destination. Or maybe you could stop by at the road side later and ask around which way to go. But if you keep on driving at the same roundabout, do you think that you'll find your way?

Let's face it. Life is a journey. Along the way, you'll see bumps, corners, roundabouts, junctions and even traffic lights. When you see bumps and corners, slow down. When there is a roundabout or junction, take the way that'll bring you to your destination. When there's a traffic light, stop when it is red. When the road is straight, speed up to 110km/h. So what if you do not follow the following rules? You hit the red light, you speed up until 180km/h, you do not slow down when there are bumpers? You keep on driving at the roundabout before you could decide which way to go?

You've just put yourself into trouble.

Life is like that. There are rules in life. And it's always risky when the rules are broken.

She was a bulimic

This is the true story of a 'bulimic'.

Linda (not her real name) was a "happy-go-lucky" girl. She never worries of putting on weight as she would always go jogging if she feels that she had gained few pounds. One day her boyfriend told her that she looks fat and he wanted her to lose few kilos in 3 months. Her friends were all disagreed with her boyfriend as they told her that she is in a good shape already. But being a girl of course she would rather listen to her boyfriend for she loves her boyfriend very much.

First, she tried to control her food intake. But there were time that she would eat a lot especially when she's out with her friends. Then, she started to throw out because she desperately want to lose weight for the sake of her boyfriend. She would throw out everytime she eats and that makes her to lose few kilos within 3 months. But still, her boyfriend keeps on complaining about her looks, her everything from head to toe. It took months to years for her to realize that she'd been wasting her time trying to satisfy her boyfriend but the fact that he never appreciate what she had done for him. So, she finally left him. And guess what? She is now happy with her man who appreciates each and single inch of hers.

Many might think that she had done a big mistake for taking so long to realize that. Well, maybe it's true when I heard people say, "love is not blind, but love has made us blind". To Linda, I'm glad that she got over it.

Well, I believe that there are women out there who are very conscious about their looks. Trust me, no matter what shape you have, "you are amazing just the way you are". Don't sacrifice things for someone who are not worth for it. If he is meant for you, he will accept you just the way you are. Well, yeah, forget about the bits and pieces of flaws that you maybe have grown up with. But believe me, "acceptance is the golden key to a happy relationship". Nobody's perfect. What most important is for you to look beyond the imperfection. Cherish the love and appreciate your loved ones...


LOVE YOURSELF AND SPREAD THE LOVE xoxo