Stick with you

If

you're lucky enough

to find someone

that makes you feel

like the only thing in the world,

don't be dumb enough to take it for granted.

Stick with them,

fight for them,

and never let go

That isn't his heart on his sleeve. That is my heart.

"You got more than looks. You got spunk, too, and that's good. Now, do you have a heart?"

"I don't understand."

"Well, I'll grant you, it's a little complicated to me, too. Because less than two weeks ago, I picked up the Enquirer, and there was your picture, smack dab on the front page, with a story that says you got jilted by your fancy beau. A week later, you're married to my nephew, Cole."

Five days ago, she'd have been humiliated by the mere mention of that article. Instead a wayward smile curved her lips.

"Well, yes," she admitted, "I can't see how that would look a little odd."

"That's the only part makes sense," he contradicted bluntly.
"Cole was mad and I showed him the picture to make a point, and I figured he made a point right back by marrying you to get his stock back. But then he told me you're the little girl he used to talked about when he was in college, and I remembered your name was Diana Foster, so I know it's really you. Are you following me?"

"So far, yes."

"Okay. So I figured out the two of you are old friends, and you just got jilted, and Cole needed a wife to get his stock back-so you two struck a deal. How am I doing so far?"

Diana eyed him askance. "Pretty well," she admitted with a trembling smile.

"Now, I also know Cole also worries about my heart. So after he got over being boiling mad over the bargain I stuck him with, he decided it would be better, for my sake, if the two of you pretended you actually give a damn about each other. Are you with me?"

She nodded warily.

"Good, because now we're coming to the part that scares the hell out of me."

"What's that?"

"Yesterday he was up at the house driving everybody crazy about every little detail so it would be as nice for you as it could be. He was giving a damned good imitation of a man who thought a whole lot of his wife. I got real excited to meet you. Last night, he couldn't keep his eyes off you. But I've gotta tell you straight out, Diana, I didn't get the idea you shared his feelings. Yet, this morning, he's wearing his heart on his sleeve, so I figure you had something to do with that last night."

He paused for emphasis, his voice turning insistent as he reached the real issue:

"Don't go playing around with his heart, girl. Either take all of it or leave it alone. Don't go taking little bits and pieces, when it suits you-and if it suits you. I don't think it's in you to be mean or cruel, but sometimes, if a woman doesn't know how a man feels, that could happen."

Diana collapsed back against the sofa, laughing softly, hugging Cole's picture on her chest. She turned her face to the elderly man who loved her husband, too, and said, without shame or pretense, "Cole isn't wearing his heart on his sleeve. That is my heart."

(Extracted from Remember When by Judith McNaught)

You don't marry someone who you can live with but you marry with someone who you cannot live without

We all know that marriage is the ultimate display of one’s affection for another. It bonds people together with their love, for life. A ritual only done between two people who are sure of their feelings for each other and who are sure that they are mature enough to understand and make the commitment. But they also must understand the time and effort that must be put into creating and maintaining a healthy relationship and marriage. Marriages don’t magically make relationships perfect. They require work and dedications. And careful thought is also required during and especially before the commitment is made.


Communication and understanding are two extremely important parts of any relationship, especially something as big as marriage. You have to make sure that you can communicate properly with the person you are marrying. You must also be able to understand their point of view on certain subjects or situations. Understanding each other’s feelings and thoughts will bring you both closer and keep your relationship and dealings with each other healthy. You also need to make sure that you are able to talk to each other and listen. Give and take is an important part of this as well. You each must listen to each other equally and never automatically shoot down the other’s thoughts or make light of them.


When talking over a problem, you should be able to calmly and rationally discuss what is happening, listening to the other’s side of the story and what they are feeling about this. Then you will be able to see all side and resolve the issue in a sensible way. If you truly think love one another, you will be able to communicate well. But if communication is a problem, it could result in serious problems and you should not stay in any relationship like that.

Don’t get so caught up in life that you forget to keep the love in your relationship or take it for granted, like it will stay there and wait while you ignore it. People think that when you get married, anything you did while you were dating shouldn’t or doesn’t need to be done anymore. But your partner will react well to the smaller things. Buy them a present, send them some flowers. And don’t be afraid to take them out on a date. Even though you are not technically dating anymore, you two can still go out for a romantic dinner or see a movie. Just spend the night with each other. Kiss them each morning and when you come home after the day. Surprise them with a nice dinner when they get back to the house. Even send them a romantic card. There are so many little things you can do to make sure the love stays strong throughout the years.

Marriage is a huge step, so make sure you consider it carefully before rushing into it. Talk about it with your partner or talk to others you know and trust who are married and ask them what it’s been like for them. Think about whether you could live with this person. How much do you care about them? It’s okay to be unsure about it at first but if it is meant to be, that feeling will soon fade, especially if you put some thought into it. And if you know you want to spend your life with someone, and you will definitely be able to tell when you do, you shouldn’t hesitate. Never miss out on the chance to be with someone who may be your soul mate. And don’t miss out on a lifetime of love and caring.

As I said before, marriage is such a huge commitment so don’t rush into it, but also don’t wait too long. And don’t be afraid either. It’s a beautiful bond between two people and it shows how much someone cares about you. Also, it shows that you have finally found someone that you care about more than anything and that you will be

with forever. Never run from someone you know deep down that you love. You may stop being together but you will never stop caring.

Marriage is a great thing. Marry the person that you can’t live without and you will never have to. Create wonderful memories and love that will last a lifetime.

But it wouldn't be my world without you in it

Eva: I knew it was too good to be true. Who is she?

(Speechless)

Blair: Just because you're dressed poorly, it doesn't mean that you're not Chuck Bass.

Chuck: Why would I want to be him?

Blair: You should've told me you got shot.

Chuck: I'm surprised you didn't shoot me yourself.

Blair: I have... many times in my dreams. The good ones. But if you were really hurt, I would want to know.

Chuck: When I woke up, my I.D. was gone. Nobody knew who I was. Nobody was coming to look for me. I realized that I might be alive but Chuck Bass didn't have to be.

Blair: Changing your name doesn't change who you are.

Chuck: It's a good start. A chance to live simply, earn people's respect. Maybe become a person someone could love.

Blair: Someone did love you... And you owe it to her... and everyone you're leaving behind, not to run away, which is what you're doing. And I don't think that great man you're talking about wanting to be is a coward. I think he would face up to what he did.

Chuck: I destroyed the only thing I ever loved.

(Returning the ring)

(Sigh)

Blair: I don't love you anymore.

(Eyes watering)

Blair: But it takes more than even you to destroy Blair Waldorf.

Chuck: Your world would be easier if I didn't come back.

Blair: That's true.

(nodding)

Blair: But it wouldn't be my world without you in it.

(Looking at each others' eyes)

You'll never know

Yesterday, I finally manage to finish watching Desperate Housewives (Season 6) after it's been few months I guess I've been keeping the whole series untouched. And there again, been thinking about how mysterious life is.

You’ll never know how protective a mother can be just to ensure that her children are doing well in whatever it is and she’ll do whatever it takes for she thought what’s best for them.

You’ll never know how protective a father can be just to make sure that his children are well taken care of.

You’ll never know how protective a friend can be just to make sure that the other friend wouldn’t get hurt again and smile for whatever the life holds for her.

You’ll never know how protective a woman can be just to make sure nothing could harm her relationship or marriage.

You'll never know how protective a man can be just to make sure the woman that he loves is safe and happy.

You'll never know...

You'll never know...

You'll never know...

But I guess, most of us know.

Sometimes,

LOVE is shown through actions, not by words.

LOVE

I quoted this from the CINTA FB's page:

LOVE is an offering that one yearns
LOVE is a bond that has no exceptions
LOVE is an envisage emotion
LOVE is a pearl in a deep blue ocean
LOVE is an attitude that gives no limitations
LOVE is a feeling that gives devotion
LOVE is Passion, LOVE is Care,
LOVE is Sweet to be shared,
LOVE is Unique, LOVE is Wonder,
LOVE is a Need that one Desire

Did I marry the right person

I am not sure who wrote this, but I read this article in someone's page.

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?


During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,'How
do I know if I married the right person?'

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit) .

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades..

It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their
unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessiv e TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.

You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. .

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you
know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can 'make love'.

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.

Remember this always:

'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

Whenever, whatever

Only TIME understands LOVE

Once upon a time there was an island where all the feelings lived; Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all the others......, including Love.

One day it was announced to all of the feelings that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So all the feelings prepared their boats to leave. Love was the only one that stayed. She wanted to preserve the island until the last possible moment. When the island was almost totally under, Love decided it was time to leave. She began looking for someone to ask for help. Just then Richness was passing by in a grand boat.

Love asked, "Richness, Can I come with you on your boat?" Richness answered, "I'm sorry, but there is a lot of silver and gold on my boat and there would be no room for you." Then Love decided to ask Vanity for help who was passing in a beautiful vessel.

Love cried out, "Vanity, help me please." I can't help you", Vanity said, "You are all wet and will damage my beautiful boat." Next, Love saw Sadness passing by. Love said, "Sadness, please let me go with you." Sadness answered, "Love, I'm sorry, but, I just need to be alone now."

Then, Love saw Happiness. Love cried out, "Happiness, please take me with you." But Happiness was so overjoyed that he didn't hear Love calling to him. Love began to cry.

Then, she heard a voice say, "Come Love, I will take you with me." It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that she forgot to ask the elder his name. When they arrived on land the elder went on his way. Love realized how much she owed the elder.

Love then found Knowledge and asked, "Who was it that helped me?" "It was Time", Knowledge answered. "But why did Time help me when no one else would?", Love asked. Knowledge smiled and with deep wisdom and sincerity, answered;

"Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is."

ps: I don't write this article, but I saved it in my drive.

pps: It's a very sweet analogy though..

Friendship Rules

According to Richard Templar in his book "The Rules of Love", there are no rules in friendship. Your Friends are who they are - you have to take 'em or leave 'em.

Rule 87

Only have people in your life who, on balance, make it better not worse

The greatest thing about friends is that they're not compulsory. You don't have to stay with them unless you want to. Hopefully you'll have plenty of really good, reliable friends who make you feel good about yourself. But if there are people around you who don't do this, you don't have to go on seeing them you know.

Let's clear about this. You deserve to have friends around you who make you feel good, support you when you're going through rough times, and want you to be happy. Anyone who doesn't fit those criteria isn't in fact a friend at all, even if you call them one.

I know this isn't always easy. What about that friend who sometimes puts you down, but really makes you laugh? What about the one who is negative about your dreams, but always listens when you're in trouble? What about the critical friend who's always ready to help out? Or the unreliable one who is incredibly kind ( when they're there)? Tricky, isn't it? I don't know the answer. All I can tell you is that it's a balancing act. You need to put them in a giant set of scales - faults on one side and virtues on the other - and see which side carries the most weight.

The point of having friends is to feel better than we would if we didn't have friends. So why have them if they don't do this much for us? You know which friends you want to keep without questions, and which you'd rather be without. And a few you'll have to think through carefully. Remember, you can't ask them to change - you just take them or leave them.

Of course you don't want to make their life on balance worse, so you'll extricate yourself gently and considerately from the friendship. I'm not advocating a showdown in which you tell them exactly what you think of them, and they retaliate, and you have a big row. You're going to keep the moral high ground remember (Rule 71). Maybe you can avoid them completely and maybe you can't. But you can certainly stop confiding in them, stop leaning on them when you want support, and stop inviting them to your birthday party. In short, stop treating them like a best friend and discreetly relegate them to the status of acquaintance.

This isn't just something you need to do now. All through your life you'll need to run the occasional check on some friend or other to decide whether they are, on balance, making your life better. I hope most of them will all of the time. That way, you can be sure that you're surrounded by people who are, collectively and individually, making your life richer.

"The great thing about friends is that they're not compulsory"

The Rules of Love, Richard Templar (International bestselling author of The Rules of Life)

Ps: Thanks to my dearest for buying me this book, worth reading though.