Words to ponder

"Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, but the realization of what you have."

I came across this quotation as I was flipping from page to page, the book that I bought last Monday. Yes, off from station again due to some duty need to be done, so I took this opportunity to at least get something for myself too. A small quotations book for a reminder to myself and maybe for us all to ponder.

"Do not pray unless you believe God will answer."

Since I was a little girl, I always wanted to be a successful career woman. My mother used to tell me;

"Things don't come easily. You have to work hard."

Holding on mother's words since I was very little, I never have such word of 'give-up' in my 'dictionary of life'.

I still remember when I met some of my childhood friends yesterday, a mini-gathering that made us to reminisce the memory back when we were kids. One of my friends told me that I always get the first place in class, and there was one year, I fall to the second place, I cried. We all thought that was funny, and we laughed at it. They even said, that's just a small matter, who would want to bother so much about what number you'd get in class? But to me, I guess, it means a lot, though I was only a little girl that time. Expectations maybe.

Last Wednesday, after a long-hour work, due to an event that we need to work on, we went to get some drinks. Well, of course, it always be me who is the youngest among the members of the table. There was actually something they said, that had really stroke me.

"You cannot expect much from people because it could disappoint you."

Well, yes. Couldn't argue more to that statement.

So no argument. =)

I remembered, one of my uncles' words.

"In whatever you do, you need to concern the sensitivity of people around you."

I guess, whoever you are, whatever attitude you have, but when it comes to this social affairs, you have to try to blend in.

Come to think about it. Sometimes, there are just many things in life that you'd wish you wouldn't have to do it , for some people perhaps, but for real, acceptance means a lot to you.

"Sincerity is the way of heaven."

ps: Think big. You are who you think you are.

I am just me

I love to talk or even nag,
I love people who loves me, and kids because usually they'll love me =)
A meaningful life partner, perhaps,
Make the right choices, often I follow that little voice of mine,
I'm brave and fearless, please don't try me,
Opinionated,
Intelligent,
I do know what I want and what to do, mostly,
I don't pretend, and I don't like hypocrites,
Unpredictable... Ooops

I am just me


ps: Now I remember who I am
pss: And I'm doing good =)

...

I can still remember how the car crashed.
That moment, I asked;
"Oh Lord, is this how it all going to end?"
My life, my career, my love story, is it how it all going to end?
Like a lightning strikes, I realized, no, it's not going to end this way.

Just like a dream.

Maybe, I have to admit. It's so hard to start everything all over. All the traumas, feelings, memories that are all caught up in me... I feel it's so hard to move on.

Pain.

When I look over the corridor, thinking myself, what's next?
To my surprise, it was all empty. I just wanted it all to be like what I've planned earlier, but,I can't seem to see anything in my future.

Empty.

I was ambitious, I was persevere, I was careful, detailed, perfectionist, intelligent... but now, why do I see none?
I forgot who I was.

Pathetic.

By the time, I'm writing this, I think I still am...

Written by:
She's confused

Indescribable

Well, ever come across a feeling where you cannot even say what it is? Yep, you cannot even talk about it when people ask, hardly to put it in words or at least get a picture of it.

It is just indescribable.

Many times, people have been asking me;

How are you now?
How do you feel?
How did that happen?
OMG, are you ok?

Well, the next best thing is, I always caught up with the answer "indescribable" in me.

Yep, no kidding. But I guess, many of us would feel the same way too, right?

Personally, I think that most of us only can describe our feelings when there is too much of it. I mean, when you feel too happy or too sad about something, then, you'll be able to talk about it. Otherwise, you'll be caught up with the feeling of "indescribable".

Well, many things in life, when you are sure, you will be able to talk about it, describe, and even argue for your own stand. So I guess, it applies to feelings too. I always believe that hesitation is not a good sign. As someone who put a lot of trust in feelings, I always believe in what I feel. It feels so right to ask it deep down inside, what say you?

Well, some people would rather rely on scientific reasoning and facts, but most people would rather trust their instincts. But then of course, never overdo, because there should be a balance in both.

"Too much of something is bad enough" isn't it?

So, I guess, you know your taste better.



xoxo

ps: You'll be sure about it when you know it's right.

Whenever, whatever

Friendship Rules

According to Richard Templar in his book "The Rules of Love", there are no rules in friendship. Your Friends are who they are - you have to take 'em or leave 'em.

Rule 87

Only have people in your life who, on balance, make it better not worse

The greatest thing about friends is that they're not compulsory. You don't have to stay with them unless you want to. Hopefully you'll have plenty of really good, reliable friends who make you feel good about yourself. But if there are people around you who don't do this, you don't have to go on seeing them you know.

Let's clear about this. You deserve to have friends around you who make you feel good, support you when you're going through rough times, and want you to be happy. Anyone who doesn't fit those criteria isn't in fact a friend at all, even if you call them one.

I know this isn't always easy. What about that friend who sometimes puts you down, but really makes you laugh? What about the one who is negative about your dreams, but always listens when you're in trouble? What about the critical friend who's always ready to help out? Or the unreliable one who is incredibly kind ( when they're there)? Tricky, isn't it? I don't know the answer. All I can tell you is that it's a balancing act. You need to put them in a giant set of scales - faults on one side and virtues on the other - and see which side carries the most weight.

The point of having friends is to feel better than we would if we didn't have friends. So why have them if they don't do this much for us? You know which friends you want to keep without questions, and which you'd rather be without. And a few you'll have to think through carefully. Remember, you can't ask them to change - you just take them or leave them.

Of course you don't want to make their life on balance worse, so you'll extricate yourself gently and considerately from the friendship. I'm not advocating a showdown in which you tell them exactly what you think of them, and they retaliate, and you have a big row. You're going to keep the moral high ground remember (Rule 71). Maybe you can avoid them completely and maybe you can't. But you can certainly stop confiding in them, stop leaning on them when you want support, and stop inviting them to your birthday party. In short, stop treating them like a best friend and discreetly relegate them to the status of acquaintance.

This isn't just something you need to do now. All through your life you'll need to run the occasional check on some friend or other to decide whether they are, on balance, making your life better. I hope most of them will all of the time. That way, you can be sure that you're surrounded by people who are, collectively and individually, making your life richer.

"The great thing about friends is that they're not compulsory"

The Rules of Love, Richard Templar (International bestselling author of The Rules of Life)

Ps: Thanks to my dearest for buying me this book, worth reading though.

What I've missed

Well, I know I hate to admit this, but..

(Enjoy shopping with my besties back then, but the stunning legs above are definitely not ours)

I miss shopping so damn much!

Last year, which was also my final year of Uni, I went shopping for at least once or twice a week! And now, being a fresh graduate who just started working for few months, I started to miss my so called 'shopping moments' back then, which I've decided to give up ever since I started working. Well, that's probably because my partner told me so although we know that both of us are spend-drifters. Yeah, him on cars and me on 'from head-to-toe'. But, it's hard to give up something that you've been enjoying so much, you know.

Well, I know I never talk openly like this, in my blog, because if i go through all my entries, they're definitely all about feelings, stories which I tend to keep it all anonymous, love and life that we all probably 've learnt in the hard way and etc.

So why am I writing this?

Self-reflection maybe. Gosh, been living in such a pressuring life lately,with workloads and everything and what I've been so used to enjoy during the hard time last time is definitely shopping. It's like a therapy. It's just that nowadays, my mum told me to learn how to manage my money and plus my partner also told me to stop spending so much on unnecessary stuffs. Well, I have somehow agree with them, because last time I don't have commitments or bills to pay. But now, since my mom strictly threatened me to start learning to manage my account, I guess I just don't have choice.

And here I am, been thinking of what I've missed so much!

I'm actually looking for something similar to this brown killer platforms (I also miss how I actually love platforms so much back then), and a matching stunning brown handbag.

The innocent and the pretender

One is innocent and another pretends to.
Not innocent not necessarily is guilty.
Just another circumctance one being less naïve
Going decent is something preferable, no?
That should be attention-grabbing.
Who won’t be curious what will happen?
Which will predominate which that’s the question.
Shall we just let the time tell?
My oh my, this should be one in a million.

Taken from: whatevershewants


ps: OMG! I love this one!
pss: To the 'post owner', in case u read this, I hope I'm forgiven for taking this. *wink*


xoxo

Meant to be together?

Ever watched “Gossip Girl” the series? OMG! I’m a big fan of the series. Feel like watching it over and over again. ( I hope it’s not too much to have such an innocent obsession)



Well, and I am also a big fan of the couple Chuck and Blair. I guess they are just meant to be together. No matter whatever happened, they just don’t suit to anyone else but each other. Is that what we call meant to be? Well, I know that the word ‘fate and destiny’ are big words to talk about here, so, I prefer the phrase ‘meant to be’ where the definition is at least has been narrowed down a bit (I guess).

Let me get you into the picture here;

A boy and a girl have known each other perhaps because they attended the same school or maybe their parents knew each other well. Born and bred in quite alike social background made them to get along well. Knowing each other for quite some time has made them become close friends which could also make each other such a good company. Well, of course “a friend in need is a friend indeed” right? So, having each other as ‘God knows what’ for quite a while has made these two become a good pair.

Just like any other relationship, there are also hot and cold. Arguments and disagreements are like “frienemy” to them. From a boy to a man, from a girl to a woman, the issues seem endless to this couple. But in the end, no matter how many struggles that has put them through, throughout all the love and hate and then love again, and.. they realized that they just couldn’t suit to anyone else but each other well. (Hm, that’s what I’ve known so far because of course the fairytale has not finished yet).

So what do you think the ending is? Will she become the Queen of her Prince Charming? Or maybe the fairytale just has no ending?

Suits yourself.

xoxo

Ignorance is a bliss

Sometimes, people just choose to ignore and forget things that they are not comfortable with. Some people just have the I-dun-give-a-damn attitude written on their heads in response to the things that they don't like, while, some just chose to be like most common ignorant people, totally ignore with I-dunno answer each and everytime they're being asked.

In whatever way, I think they just agreed that "ignorance is somehow a bliss".

I remembered a lecturer of mine once asked;

If you're given a situation where you bumped to your best friend's husband, and he wasn't actually with the wife which is your best friend. To you they looked so closed not even like just-a-friend. You know that your best friend are doing good with the husband. He gave enough of everything to her, he fulfilled all her needs. They're just perfect and you wouldn't want to believe with what you just saw. What would you do? Instantly call your best friend, tell her the whole truth and risking that both of them might have a fight or separate...or.. you ignore what you just saw..You might not like what you just saw, but at least you know that both of them are happily married, with cute kids, nice house, nice cars..so, why bother?




During the class, some actually chose the first one, while some chose the latter and I believe whatever choices they made, they have their own rationale to support their answers.

But what if the same thing happens to you?
Would you choose to argue and separate?
Or just ignore and pretend nothing ever happened?
Ever?

She was a bulimic

This is the true story of a 'bulimic'.

Linda (not her real name) was a "happy-go-lucky" girl. She never worries of putting on weight as she would always go jogging if she feels that she had gained few pounds. One day her boyfriend told her that she looks fat and he wanted her to lose few kilos in 3 months. Her friends were all disagreed with her boyfriend as they told her that she is in a good shape already. But being a girl of course she would rather listen to her boyfriend for she loves her boyfriend very much.

First, she tried to control her food intake. But there were time that she would eat a lot especially when she's out with her friends. Then, she started to throw out because she desperately want to lose weight for the sake of her boyfriend. She would throw out everytime she eats and that makes her to lose few kilos within 3 months. But still, her boyfriend keeps on complaining about her looks, her everything from head to toe. It took months to years for her to realize that she'd been wasting her time trying to satisfy her boyfriend but the fact that he never appreciate what she had done for him. So, she finally left him. And guess what? She is now happy with her man who appreciates each and single inch of hers.

Many might think that she had done a big mistake for taking so long to realize that. Well, maybe it's true when I heard people say, "love is not blind, but love has made us blind". To Linda, I'm glad that she got over it.

Well, I believe that there are women out there who are very conscious about their looks. Trust me, no matter what shape you have, "you are amazing just the way you are". Don't sacrifice things for someone who are not worth for it. If he is meant for you, he will accept you just the way you are. Well, yeah, forget about the bits and pieces of flaws that you maybe have grown up with. But believe me, "acceptance is the golden key to a happy relationship". Nobody's perfect. What most important is for you to look beyond the imperfection. Cherish the love and appreciate your loved ones...


LOVE YOURSELF AND SPREAD THE LOVE xoxo