Goodbye

By the time I'm typing this, it is only few hours left to 2011.. Little did we realize that time has taken its toll over time.. Glimpsing back, there had been many incidents so as accidents that perhaps you could not even recall because there's just too many things happened to you through out the year..Not to forget those things that you may refuse to remember which had left yourself to bear a huge scar deep inside in a way..

Whether this year had been a lucky or a fall out year to you, what crucial most is, it should be a stepping stone for you to move steps ahead towards a better you..


"Let bygone be bygone"
Sometimes, life is so beautiful but sometimes, life turned out to be the opposite of what we've expected it to be. Whatever happened, life goes on. Leave the past and move forward. Have faith that things happened for reasons. Sometimes, when things turned out to be bad, it's actually not that bad at all. Look at the bright side and learn from what you've gone through. Remember, bits and pieces that you've experienced had actually made you a unique person.

"Forgive"
Many times in life, we'd do the wrong things. Of course, nobody's perfect. But, taking yourself towards the right things is good enough. Thus, before you could move any further, start forgiving. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Open up your heart, and the world will open up for you.

"Don't judge, help instead"
Life is a long struggle. Each and every one of us has our own life-struggle. Thus, do not judge people because you yourself might also struggling with your own life-long struggle. You wouldn't know what they have been struggling even if you've walked one mile in their shoes, and so are they. But, it is our duty to help each other with our struggle.

"Be responsible"
Responsibility is something that you cannot run away from. You are responsible as a daughter, as a brother or sister, as a friend, as a husband or wife. You're also responsible in your studies, in your work. But what important most is, you're responsible as His creation and there's no way for you to 'disconnect' yourself from Him.

"Don't hate, accept others"
Again, nobody's perfect. But what important most is how to look beyond the imperfections. Each of us has our own strengths and flaws. Thus, do not hate but accept people as they are. Sometimes, there are times when you could not help it, so isolate yourself. Take your time to reconcile.

"Be positive and smile"
Life is like a cycle. Sometimes you're on top, sometimes, you'd thrown to the bottom of the cycle. Be positive that you could work things out in future. Have faith that you could make it all better. Smile more often, and put all the stresses away.

The choice is yours.



Goodbye 2010..

A chapter is closed, another is beginning...

YOU

For all those time YOU stood by me
For all the truth that YOU made me see
For all the joy YOU brought to my life
For all the wrong that YOU made right
For every dream YOU made come true
For all the love I found in YOU
I'll be forever thankful baby
YOU're the one who held me up
Never let me fall
YOU're the one who saw me through
Through it all

YOU gave me wings and made me fly
YOU touched my hand I could touch the sky
I lost my faith YOU get it back to me
YOU said no star was out of reach
YOU stood by me and I stood tall
I had YOUR love I had it all
I'm grateful for each day YOU gave me
Maybe I don't know that much
But I know this much is true
I was blessed because
I was loved by YOU

YOU were my strength when I was weak
YOU were my voice when I couldn't speak
YOU were my eyes when I couldn't see
YOU saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when I couldn't reach
YOU gave me faith cause you believed
I am everything I am
Because YOU loved me





Source: Song "Because You Loved Me" by Celine Dion

I am happy, still

"I'm happy for you."
"Thank you. I hope you'll find someone soon."
Silence.
"How would I know if he is the right one for me?"
"Soon you'll know when you meet him."
Hugs.

Stepping yourself into twenties has made you realize that time flies so fast. You're gonna miss those moments when you hang out with your friends, go shopping with your girlfriends, chit-chatting in the class during the lecture, staying up whole night with your partner to finish up your assignments and all the best things you had.

Little did you realize, things had changed a lot. Most of your friends are engaged or even marriage while some are already in a stable relationship. If you are still single, perhaps you'll feel a bit stress up for still not having someone special while almost everybody around you does. If you're already in a relationship, perhaps you'd feel more alone as you found out most of your friends are already married, having babies while your partner is busy with his jobs and so on. How about those who are already married? I bet being a mom in twenties is never easy. Perhaps you would be wondering yourself how does it feels if you're still single, having fun with your friends, hanging out and shopping.

Well, whatever status you are now, just enjoy the ride. =D

Life is like a masterpiece. Each and every paint differs to one another. The beauty of the life itself may also differ. It is very subjective to say that "your life is more beautiful than mine" and "my life is more beautiful than yours".Maybe you were granted to have a wonderful life when you were a kid, but once you grew up, life has never been easy for you. Maybe God has given you everything that you need in this life, with good education, good job, good family but still you can't find a good partner of your life. Maybe you're just comfortable of being in an average life, with little family, little income, little house, little car and you're just happy with that.

Whatever it is, be grateful for every bits and pieces that God has given us is to show His love to us. Be grateful for you're still breathing. Be grateful for you are granted with a good health. Be grateful that you are pretty (well yes, nobody's ugly =D ). Be grateful that you still have people who love and care for you. Be grateful and just be grateful...

But being grateful doesn't mean that you can just sit there doing nothing. Keep on trying to find your true happiness. Have passion to fall in love again. Find a hobby perhaps. Enjoy what you love to do. Surround yourself with beautiful things that you love. Surround yourself with positive people.

LOVE yourself and LOVE others =D

The art of Forgiving

"To forgive and forget, rules to a happy life"

Often we heard such line intentionally to comfort somebody's grudge. Even sometimes it's been said to us whenever we were in anger or hatred due to hypocrisy, backstabbing, betrayal or any controversial affairs that irk us. But the point is, is it true that you can live happily by forgiving and forgetting someone's flaws to you?

Well, let's get the picture here.

Your boyfriend/ girlfriend cheated you. Your circle of friends think what he/she had done to you was so unforgivable. Thus, you feel like you cannot even forgive him/her. So every morning you wake up, you remember what he/she had done to you and you curse him/her. Before you go to bed, when you feel sad and alone, you remember what he/she had done to you and you curse him/her. What about in between that? When you go out and you saw a couple crossing the road, you remember again and you curse him/her. You go to the petrol pump and you saw a couple in a car in front of you. The guy walks to the counter while the girl touching-up in the car. Then, you remember what had happened and you curse him/her again. Wow, in ten to eleven days, he/she would totally got cursed by you!

But then, do you feel better?
Even if you think that you'd feel better, the feeling won't last long because you'll feel the burden soon after. Yes, the burden of revenge and grudge that you're carrying with you. And it'll get heavier day after day.

Why can't you just let it go?
Let it go. Let bygone be bygone. When it comes to the point of letting go, yes, it's never get easy. But, that's just the best thing to do.

"To err is human", who are we to judge?

Try to open up your heart...and...forgive.. No matter what happened, life goes on. Don't let the past holds you back. You'll feel less burden when you forgive people. Yes, even for bits and pieces deed, let's just forgive. Embrace yourself with love. Love yourself and love the others. You'll feel much happier then. =D

Three magic words

I regretted it.
I am sorry.
I was wrong.
I love you.
Please forgive me.

Yes.
If only you would have said these three magic words, maybe you could have saved the friendship.
If only you would have said these three magic words, maybe you could have saved the relationship.
If only you would have said these three magic words, perhaps, you could have saved the marriage.

Why is it so hard?

Your ego.

What are you looking for?

Situation 1:
A: I just broke up.
B: Ohw, I'm sorry. Don't worry, you'll find someone better.
A: I don't know why it all didn't work.
B: What kind of girl/ guy are you looking for?

Yes, what are you looking for?
Are you looking for someone who is good looking?
Are you looking for someone who has lots of money?
Are you looking for someone who drives nice car?
Are you looking for someone who can make you laugh?

Well, no matter what your answer is, there's no right or wrong answer. Suits yourself. But, if you ask me, I would go for the latter.

"Don't go for looks, they can deceive. Don't go for wealth, even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seems bright"

In regards the situation above, A just broke up though he tried his best to save the relationship. Perhaps this isn't the first time of his relationship failure because B is calm when responding to A. And the next best thing is, B come out with a question "What kind of girl/ guy are you looking for?"

Yes, in order for you to get something, you must know what you want first. But in order for you to get the right girl/ guy, you must know what you need first. Yes, need because there's difference between 'want' and 'need'.

When a relationship ends, look at it positively. Perhaps he/ she is not the right one for you. Perhaps you need someone who can give you more. Perhaps you need someone who can treat you better.Perhaps you need someone who suits you best.

Or perhaps, the one for you is right there in front of you but you just weren't looking... you didn't notice and you didn't realize it. But that someone is there whenever you need someone to talk to, someone to believe you, someone to comfort you...So, look back.

But sometimes, it depends on luck. Forget about the looks, forget about the money...or forget about what had happened.. So here, you cannot look at anywhere but feel it with your heart.. Yes, that little voice of yours..

And there are also time when you are just not sure of what you want and what you need... but don't worry, because HE will answer your prayer...if only...only you would have just asked...

Through The Rain

Because you were there

"Thank you"
"Why?"
"Because you were there"
"I was there because I chose to be with you and I'll be there no matter what circumstances you're in"
She cried again.

Life is not a fairytale. There are time when you would be tested with lists of unexpected challenges when you least expect them to happen. When you think that everything is doing so well, suddenly things just happen and you lose your grip. What would you do? Panic attacked? Cry out loud? Drive as fast as you can? Eat a lot of ice cream and chocolates? Lock yourself in the room and switch off the phone so that nobody can reach you?

If your answer is among all above, how do you feel after that? Better? Worse? Or heartless?

Well, no matter what your answer is, most of us will need a shoulder to cry on. Why? Because it hurts when you just keep it to yourself hoping that the wound will heal and fade away soon. But be careful, that 'shoulder' must be someone whom you trust most.

Knowing 'someone' is there for you when you were facing difficulties in life will somehow lessen the burden. Sometimes, life gets tough and you need the support of others to move on. And sometimes, life gets extremely tough, when you feel no one could help or support you except the ONE and only who will always listens. Yes, things happen for reasons, but HE who knows best.

And you are not alone, you will never be...

Life at the roundabout

"I'm confused"
"Yes you always are"
"I'm sad. I keep on meeting the wrong person"
"That's because you keep on driving at the same roundabout"


Yes, roundabout. What does a roundabout mean to you? Well, if you're driving, and you see a roundabout, what would you do? 9 o'clock? 12 o'clock? 3 o'clock? Or you just go around the roundabout?

Well, if you know where you're heading, you'll definitely know which way you are going to take, whether to take the 9 o'clock, 12 o'clock or the 3 o'clock. But, if you don't know where you are going, that makes you to drive at the same roundabout!

Let say, you know where you want to go, but you are not sure which way to take. Will you be able to reach your desired destination? Hm, maybe you can follow the signboards, but what if there are no signboards? Will you be able to find your way? Well, maybe you can just try out any of the way, 9 o'clock, 12 o'clock or the 3 o'clock. Soon, you'll figure out the right way to your destination. Or maybe you could stop by at the road side later and ask around which way to go. But if you keep on driving at the same roundabout, do you think that you'll find your way?

Let's face it. Life is a journey. Along the way, you'll see bumps, corners, roundabouts, junctions and even traffic lights. When you see bumps and corners, slow down. When there is a roundabout or junction, take the way that'll bring you to your destination. When there's a traffic light, stop when it is red. When the road is straight, speed up to 110km/h. So what if you do not follow the following rules? You hit the red light, you speed up until 180km/h, you do not slow down when there are bumpers? You keep on driving at the roundabout before you could decide which way to go?

You've just put yourself into trouble.

Life is like that. There are rules in life. And it's always risky when the rules are broken.

She's having PMS

"Have you taken your dinner?"
"I don't feel like eating."
"Why? Are you sick?"
"I don't know. Ouh, I feel like vomiting."
*sigh*

Ever experience this? Or maybe worse? Well, this could be PMS.

What is PMS?

Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is a combination of emotional, physical, psychological, and mood disturbances that occur after a woman's ovulation and typically ending with the onset of her menstrual flow. The most common mood-related symptoms are irritability, depression, crying, oversensitivity, and mood swings with alternating sadness and anger. The most common physical symptoms are fatigue, bloating, breast tenderness (mastalgia), acne, and appetite changes with food cravings.



(http://www.medicinenet.com/premenstrual_syndrome/article.htm)

Yup, she is confused. She's not sure what she really wants, everything seems to be unsatisfying to her. Well, don't blame her because she is having PMS.


How to treat PMS?You could help your partner too...

• exercise;
• family and friends can provide emotional support during the time of a woman's cycle;
• avoid salt before the menstrual period;
• reduce caffeine intake;
• quite smoking;
• reduce alcohol intake; and
• reduce intake of refined sugars
• take vitamin B6, vitamin E, calcium, and magnesium supplements

So, if your girlfriend is having mood swings, unstable emotion, appetite changes or food craving, do not complain. Give her support instead. She needs you...

Good luck!

Source: http://www.medicinenet.com/premenstrual_syndrome/article.htm

Don't be sad

"Doctor, why did the pimples come out?"
"Ohw, that is because you are stressed. Hm, are you stressed?"

Ohw, am I stressed? I asked myself. I just laughed.

Well, there are time when we would feel so stressed up with workloads, personal things or even some issues related to our life. Who said that life has to be perfect? Let's face it. Life has its ups and downs. So as your love life, it has its hot and cold moments. But, no matter how hard life is, life goes on. Don't be sad...

As for me, I believe that things happen for reasons. Sometimes, things fall apart for better things to fall together. Sometimes, things go wrong but miracles could happen when you least expect it. Have faith that you will find your happiness someday. Be positive for obstacles are just a part and parcel of life. Nobody can run away from that fact. But, be grateful instead, for what you are going and have gone through, you are not alone.

Look around you and you'll be surprised that there are still many people who love and care about you. Just remember, when sadness come, it is not the end of the world yet. Nobody knows what the future holds for you. Maybe there'll be a rainbow after the rain. Maybe there's a light at the end of the tunnel. Just keep on going, keep on moving. Yes, it takes a lot of courage, but soon you'll know and you'll thank God for giving you the strength, you'll thank God for not giving up..


Love yourself and spread the love. xoxo

Ohw you're 24

Well, I remembered last time when I turned to 24. Being 24 is like a statement to me. I started to worry about so much things in life. For most girl out there, 24 seems to be a new phase of life. Yes, by 24, probably you had already finished studying or maybe still struggling for your final year as an undergraduate, started worrying to look for your life partner, wondering what the world outside holds for you after you have left your student's life and so much more.

"Age is just a number!"

A very common phrase from my friends when I was caught by them worrying about myself turning 24. But I guess, it means a lot to me.

"Ohw, you're 24? Hmm, still young..."

Another common respond that i received from most people that I have talked to or some new friends that I met. What does that supposed to mean? Do I look older than my look? Not to brag, but there are some who claimed that I'm 19 when they first saw me...even some of my parents' friends said that me and my 20 years old sister are twins..=D

But now, I should say that it doesn't matter of what your age is. But, what most important is how you carry yourself . The life is in you hand, it is you yourself who shape your life. Whether you are 24 or 42, don't feel shy and feel confident about yourself. Mix around and you will be surprised that you'll learn more about life and see more perspective of it. Every individual is unique and each and every of them carries their own stories. Open up your heart and the world will open up for you.



xoxo

She was a bulimic

This is the true story of a 'bulimic'.

Linda (not her real name) was a "happy-go-lucky" girl. She never worries of putting on weight as she would always go jogging if she feels that she had gained few pounds. One day her boyfriend told her that she looks fat and he wanted her to lose few kilos in 3 months. Her friends were all disagreed with her boyfriend as they told her that she is in a good shape already. But being a girl of course she would rather listen to her boyfriend for she loves her boyfriend very much.

First, she tried to control her food intake. But there were time that she would eat a lot especially when she's out with her friends. Then, she started to throw out because she desperately want to lose weight for the sake of her boyfriend. She would throw out everytime she eats and that makes her to lose few kilos within 3 months. But still, her boyfriend keeps on complaining about her looks, her everything from head to toe. It took months to years for her to realize that she'd been wasting her time trying to satisfy her boyfriend but the fact that he never appreciate what she had done for him. So, she finally left him. And guess what? She is now happy with her man who appreciates each and single inch of hers.

Many might think that she had done a big mistake for taking so long to realize that. Well, maybe it's true when I heard people say, "love is not blind, but love has made us blind". To Linda, I'm glad that she got over it.

Well, I believe that there are women out there who are very conscious about their looks. Trust me, no matter what shape you have, "you are amazing just the way you are". Don't sacrifice things for someone who are not worth for it. If he is meant for you, he will accept you just the way you are. Well, yeah, forget about the bits and pieces of flaws that you maybe have grown up with. But believe me, "acceptance is the golden key to a happy relationship". Nobody's perfect. What most important is for you to look beyond the imperfection. Cherish the love and appreciate your loved ones...


LOVE YOURSELF AND SPREAD THE LOVE xoxo

You are what you eat

"OMG! I am fat already!"

I guess this is the very common phrase that we will hear from our girlfriends or... boyfriends...even from ourselves when we had mistakenly ate a lot, more than what we normally eat everyday..Yes it is undeniable that there are time where we are emotionally unstable and we tend to take big portion of foods, or when we feel like doing nothing at home but caught ourselves snacking junkies on the couch, or maybe we thought that there's just so much food on the table when nobody's going to eat them but you...

Simple theory that I always keep in my mind...eat what you are going to burn...

So, why worrying yourself being fat? If you think that you have mistakenly ate more foods than your body need...go and work-out...not only you can sweat, but it also releases all your stresses...There's nothing wrong of eating carbs and fats...but bear this in mind, "anything that is too much is bad"...so stop feeling guilty but eat accordingly...

Happy dieting!! *wink*